The Busyness Trap: The Hidden Cost of Overcommitting (for Parents—and Everyone Else)
The Busyness Treadmill: The Hidden Cost of Over-Committing (for Parents—and Everyone Else) Many parents aren’t just busy—they feel like there’s never enough time. The days fill up quickly, and before you know it, you’re stretched thin and running on empty. Not just for a few weeks or months—but for years on end. Sprinting becomes the […]
Take a Sneak Peek at my Online Course INSIGHT: The Principles of a Fulfilling and High-Performance Life
Take a Sneak Peek at my Online Course ‘INSIGHT: The Principles of a Fulfilling and High-Performance Life’ Ever known someone that handles things like crises, work or parenting stress, or relationship conflict more gracefully than you? And yet if you look around a little more, there’s people that handle life less gracefully than you? Even […]
Breaking the Worry Loop: Seeing how Fear about the Future is made of Bad Data
Breaking the Worry Loop: Seeing how Fear about the Future is made of Bad Data Today’s post is about how terrible we are at predicting the future, and yet we seem to trust our prediction skills 100%. We recently got a golden retriever puppy. I expected a cuddly, fuzzy ball of dough. What we got […]
Hardship: It’s a Grind, but it’s Your Greatest Teacher
Hardship: It’s a Grind, but It’s Your Greatest Teacher In my youth I was a big-time procrastinator. Typically I’d start writing a paper at 10pm the night before it was due. It always struck me that once 10pm hit and I had to sit down and start writing, it really wasn’t that bad. I’d get […]
Getting Yourself Back on Track: It’s Something that Happens to You Naturally
Getting Yourself Back on Track: It’s Something that Happens to You Naturally Today’s video is about how we have a natural default to regain our balance in life when we lose it. It may not seem like it because we all find ourselves in regular waves of problems like relationship issues, financial stress, self-doubt or […]
Pressuring Yourself to Live up to Your Potential: A Stress-Inducer with No Actual Payoff
Yesterday on my drive to Costco I made every stoplight. I didn’t hit a single red light. Maybe this is a sign that my world is too small but it was exciting enough that I told the cashier. She had her own ‘made all the lights’ story. Sometimes things come together perfectly in a moment […]
Sometimes your Best Move in Life is Admitting You Don’t Have All the Answers
Today’s video is about the idea that sometimes in life less effort on our part can lead us to more clarity and forward-motion. I saw this recently after hanging out with a close friend of mine named Elaine. Elaine had been a chronic cigarette smoker for many years, and then one day she stopped. So […]
Losing your Way: It Doesn’t Mean there’s Something Wrong with You
Today’s video highlights two clients that both felt they’d failed in life. Client #1 is 21, had been academically ‘gifted’ as a kid, then started failing classes in high school and college as school got harder. Client #2 is a therapist who “thought she had it all together” but is currently going through divorce #2. […]
Fixating on Problems: It Gives You Something to Do, but it Slows Down your Answer-Factory
Today’s video is about how common it is for people to fixate on a problem as a way to solve it. And how it doesn’t work. Fixating on problems is like pushing the elevator call button over and over again. That’s not how the system works. It’s gives people a temporary distraction from the feeling […]
Stop Trying to Do it All: Dropping the “I’m amazing at everything” Mindset
When I was in high school I was hanging out with my friend Aaron and he said something like “You’re always so positive about things. I love that about you.” For a few short hours, I felt fantastic. It was the best feeling to have someone stop and really ‘see’ me and appreciate me. And […]